I started reading a wonderful book today. It's by Dr. Phil's wife. I think he's brilliant, so she can't be too bad herself. Steve and I have an awesome counselor that we have been seeing during Steve's recovery. We both feel comfortable and confident in him. He definitely has our best interests in mind. He is a wonderful man and I truly feel that God sent us to him.
This book that I am reading is about life, of course, and living with passion and purpose. The very first chapter covered some things that have already hit close in my heart. I know that I have been fortunate in this life to have loving, nurturing women in my family. My Mamaw, Dad's mom, passed away when I was a senior in high school, but she always made it known how much she loved her family. The first chapter covers just that. Robin - the author- says that she wants to "be proud of herself because she raised decent children. She does not ever want to live with the regret of knowing she could have tried a little harder to help her children become happy, healthy adults." The following is an excerpt from the book. I just hope and pray that when Buzzy is an adult and has a family of his own, that I can truly say this myself! Enjoy!
From "Inside My Heart" By Robin McGraw
"It's always been important to me to know I was doing the best I could at the time I was doing it, even if my best sometimes wasn't all that good. Both Jay and Jordan (Her children) managed to survive my mothering mishaps, which is a relief to me. I firmly believe that how happy my sons are is a reflection of who I am and how well I did my job. Being a mother is more than a phase in my life; for me, It's a never-ending mission, my calling here on earth. And when the time comes and I'm standing before my heavenly Father, I just want Him to say to me "'Job well done."'
You can look after your children every day, make sure they have clean clothes, and make sure they're at home every night, but there's more to mothering than that. I always wanted my boys to have joy inside of them, that peace and excitement and pride about who they are. I wanted to not only make sure they were physically taken care of but spiritually and emotionally taken care of, too. There are so many responsibilities to parenting, and I always wanted to make sure I'd done everything I could to give them not only the basics they needed to stay alive, but the spirit and enthusiasm to really be alive, to live with passion and gusto and joy.
No one's perfect. My kids aren't perfect and I'm not perfect. We don't agree about everything, and every once in a while one of them will do something that makes me want to ask what in the heck they were thinking. But I can honestly say that I feel confident that I've done everything I'm capable of doing."----------------------
2 comments:
I think mothering has never stopped for me. I know my 4 "children" are the most important things to me. Pappy always says I put myself last compared to where I put them. I know I made mistakes, and will continue to make them. When something doesn't go the way we wish, I always try to see what I could have done better. "I" is the best place to start. Memories are the best thing a child can grow up with. I know Lucas' granny and I have lots from our childhood. (firecracker incident, cinnamon rolls, Bristol, etc.) I'm so thankful for all the memories we have and so many more to come for Buzzy, Lucas and whoever comes after.
I am so glad to have those memories from my childhood. I think me and Cynthia must have rode hundreds of miles on her bike and I'll never forget her bloodying my nose with that softball! Or how we tormented Wendy every chance we got! It was always so much fun! Sorry Wendy, you were an easy target!! I am so happy that Lucas and Buzzy will hopefully have many memories themselves when they are our age! I agree with Mimi, Bristol was awesome! We need to do that again. Only two little men will definately be invited!
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